This is an exercise designed to move you closer to a place of honest, deep self-love. It can raise feelings of fear but remember, it's just writing - just squiggles on a page - and you can rip up and throw away that page when you've finished.
This works best when you don't read the post through first. Instead, dive right in and follow each instruction as you go.
Begin with two loose pieces of paper. At the top of one write the heading 'Reality'. At the top of the other write the heading 'Desire'.
Start with this piece of paper and list anything that you want out of life - anything that you would like to be, have for feel. For example, if you have aspirations to get healthier, earn more money, have a baby, meet a partner or anything else write that down but write them in the present tense, as though you have already wished them into being. For example, instead of writing 'I want to lose 3 stone' 'I will stop smoking' or 'I'd like to be less judgemental of others' make it 'I am slim and healthy', 'I am a non-smoker' and 'I view others with love.'
Now gab the second piece of paper. Make a list of where you are now. What are the counter points to the things that you wrote on the other page? If you wrote 'I am a non-smoker' on your list of desires, add 'I am a smoker' to this page. Where your desire page read 'I get up early and work out every morning' perhaps your reality page might read 'I often sleep in and I work out a few times a week' (that would be one of mine!).
Change your perception
Take as much time as you need to complete these lists. When you've finished, change the headings. Cross out 'Reality' and write 'Aspects of me'. Cross out 'Desire' and write 'Fiction'. I know this can feel challenging but believe me, it's worth it! The person listed on that page doesn't exist. They may do at some point but they may not. Perhaps some aspects of them will come into being and others won't. Right now however, you are already a wonderful, worthy human being and you don't need to become that person to make it so. For the rest of the exercise, we're going to focus on who you are today. So tear up that page of fiction and get rid of it.
It's time to learn to love some unloved parts of yourself. There may be points on that other list that you find really difficult to own, so I'm not talking about love with a capital 'L'. I'm talking about finding a way to offer loving care, or even just something approaching non-judgemental awareness, to the aspects of yourself that you may have ignored, denied or felt shame around.
The things you wrote on that list are likely to be the aspects of you that you've pushed to the back of the cupboard, so to speak. How much of yourself are you trying to hide, even from yourself? Consider the list. Reflect on the things written there and the way you feel as you do. These are little piece of you that are probably crying out for kindness. Only by offering compassion to these aspects can we begin to heal. Instead of striving to be the person on the other list, ask yourself how this person wants to be loved, cared for and nurtured. We all need a little nurturing if we are to grow and change in natural ways that feel good.
So take each point in turn. Meditate on each one without trying to change your experience. Can you do this without judging yourself? Set out with that intention and see what happens. Maybe ask yourself whether anyone else you care about has this particular aspect to their character? If they do and you love them anyway, can you give yourself a bit of a break. Be kind to yourself in any small way you can as you do this and journal about anything that comes up. If it feels particularly emotive and you'd like additional guidance, or to explore further with a Soul Scripting session, get in touch.